Am I Wrong for Calling Mom after My Husband Refused to Listen to Me?

One woman decided it was time for some intervention after her partner had disregarded her worries time and time again. Tragic family events filtered into her marriage and led to startling disclosures.
Recently, a 24-year-old Redditor and her spouse moved into their first house. By then, she was four months along with her first child, which the couple was expecting, and she was having “horrible morning sickness.”

“It reached a really bad point where I passed out hit my head, and my Dr admitted me to the hospital for a week,” said the woman.

When she got home after being released from the hospital, her husband had let her brother-in-law and his family use two of their three bedrooms. The Original Poster (OP) stated that she was unaware of the reason behind their eviction.
Her workplace was one of the house’s rooms, and she discovered that documents were all over the place there. OP said the following about her response to the filth she discovered in her house:

“The house was in total disarray. Used diapers, filthy clothes, and trash. I broke down in tears.”

She informed her husband that it wasn’t “that bad,” and he ought to tidy the house before she wakes up. After that, she slept for four hours and went to get a glass of water when she woke up.

To her dismay, the glasses were scattered all around the house, unclean, and she was unable to locate a clean one. She picked up and washed the dirty dishes out of aggravation as her family and spouse had neglected to tidy the house.
She attempted to finish her work the next day but found it difficult to concentrate. The children of the brother-in-law were weeping and hammering on the walls all the time, and their mother would spend hours in the room ignoring them.

OP’s husband confronted her for making his sister-in-law feel uncomfortable in their house once he got back home. He mentioned that the house still appeared to be in disarray and that she did not attempt to assist her with the children either.

After an argument, OP told her husband that his relatives had to go and that she was too ill to have them over. She started crying, and he wouldn’t throw them out. OP called her mother to ask if she could go and stay with her because she was feeling exhausted by the situation..

The decision was made for OP’s mother and her three elder brothers to visit. Enraged, her mother told her husband that because he wouldn’t let his family leave, they could stay with them as well. The mother promptly ordered OP to bed and assumed control of the family.
Her brothers, meanwhile, began pitching in to assist clean the house and made a point of calling their brother-in-law’s family “disgusting” in the process. They said that her husband was “horrible” for subjecting her to it during her illness.

OP claimed that she later got a nasty text from her mother-in-law criticizing her for letting her mother-in-law control her brother-in-law and for not assisting her son in cleaning up the house. The mother-in-law eventually arrived at the couple’s home, and when she did, OP heard her yelling outside but was unable to understand what she was saying.

Still, as she entered the house, she was taken aback by the condition of it. “My house had an awful appearance. My BIL misrepresented what had occurred to her. My mother-in-law soon began to assist my mother in taking over.” OP revealed.

Later, she gave her fellow Reddit users an update on what had happened after the mothers’ intervention. OP claims that after a while, her brother-in-law and his family moved in with her mother-in-law, who was unaware of their expulsion. Since then, she has given them financial assistance.
It turns out that her sister-in-law had an affair and had persuaded her husband that they were married too soon. It also surprised OP that she does not want the burden of being a mother.

She requested some separation from her spouse, and they have subsequently made the decision to address their domestic circumstances. OP stated, “He seemed very remorseful.” After a lengthy conversation regarding their disagreement, OP’s spouse disclosed that his brother was only meant to be here for a few nights.

However, because they stayed later than planned, he lost his cool and “was emotionally upset himself,” which is why he attacked her. Even after they split up, he pleaded with her to give him another chance.

They are currently going to individual and marital counseling. When the home health nurse checked on OP at night and during her doctor’s appointments, her husband requested to be present.
The person stated that she regrets not washing up first and calling her mother when she was too ill and exhausted to deal with her husband and in-laws.

Do you believe that OP should not have confronted her home difficulties head-on and called her parent? Do you believe that her husband made a mistake by inviting family to stay with them? If you were in her shoes, what action would you take?