Dad Completely Refused to Walk His Daughter Down the Aisle — Story of the Day

Despite my daughter’s persistent demands, I did not agree to accompany her down the aisle at her wedding. I am convinced that what I did was completely appropriate…

It’s been years since I’ve had a conversation with my daughter, Alice. The revelation that she was not my biological daughter came to light when she reached 18 years old. Clara, my wife, had cheated on me with a friend, and that guy, James, turned out to be Alice’s father. My wife had cheated on me with their buddy.

To tell you the truth, I didn’t care whether Alice was my child or not. I treated her the same way whatever. It has always been my intention to treat her as if she were my daughter, and I intend to continue doing so. But unfortunately, Alice did not have the same desire.

“Dad, how are you even capable of doing that?” Upon her return from college on that particular day, Alice was filled with rage. “Oh, hold on, am I even supposed to refer to you as your father?”

My explanation was, “Honey, I wanted to tell you something.” On the other hand, I believed that the fact that Clara and I are going through a divorce would already be a lot for you to take in. I am truly sorry!

“No, dad!” she exclaimed. Retorting was Alice. “Your apology is not going to get anything better,” the speaker said.

As I pleaded with her, “Alice, please, you are the only one I have now,” she listened to me. The last thing I want is to lose you. When it comes to me, it makes no difference whether or not you are my biological daughter. My sweetheart, I adore you!

Alice gave me a stern look. “In any case, if you truly cared about me, you wouldn’t have concealed the truth about my biological father!”

“However, Alice…” Alice had already packed her bags and fled before I could even finish my sentence.

I felt my heart breaking. It was not a problem for me if Alice chose to be with her biological father rather than with me. However, the fact that she never gave any consideration to the many years of love and care that I had provided for her as a parent was a source of great pain for me.

From that point on, I made multiple attempts to get in touch with Alice. In order to pay her a visit at her college, I would occasionally miss work. However, whenever I attempted to engage in conversation with her, she would simply ignore me and leave.

From time to time, I was notified via email by Alice’s institution that she was not performing well in her academic pursuits. Due to the fact that she had failed a number of classes, the institution had issued a warning to her, stating that she needed to improve her grades or else she would be rusticated.

Because I was worried about her, I made another attempt to get in touch with her. The call was answered by her, which is a relief.

At that moment, she was ready to hang up the phone and said, “Don’t call me again, or I’ll report you to the police!”

I stated, “Alice, please wait.” “I assure you that I will not call you again, but right now, it is not about me,” she said. Your studies are the focus of this.”

During the call, Alice came on and began cursing at me. Oh my gawd! Have you reached the point where you are sick of acting like a father figure? I mean, how much longer are you going to continue to behave in such a manner?

However, I informed her, “But honey, I was actually worried about you,” and she agreed.

At that point, she responded, “That’s enough, Mark!” “If you continue to behave in this manner, or even if you come around looking for me, you are aware of what the next step is going to be!” She then added the call and then disconnected it.

I was completely taken aback. You, Mark? She truly did call me by my name, and not by my father’s name?

If you are a parent, you are aware of how helpless a parent feels in a scenario like this, especially when their child refuses to listen to them while they speak. If you actually care about them, they will believe that you are merely acting kind to them in order to make them feel better. That was, unfortunately, the situation that had transpired with Alice.

This was the last time that Alice and I communicated with one another after that moment. In any case, the anticipation of receiving a call or text from her was a far-off dream. When all was said and done, she was content with James and Clara.

However, Alice finally sent me a text message one day. It was because of that message that I came to the conclusion that declining her request was the most prudent selection…

The message started out by saying, “Hi Dad, this is Alice.”

You, Dad? To what extent does she fail to recall that my name is Mark, or did she simply send the text by accident?

The message stated, “I am getting engaged, and I want you to walk me down the aisle,” and it made the request clear. “I am aware that our relationship has been difficult in the past, but I am in desperate need of your assistance. Adam, my fiance, has been my sole source of support ever since my father passed away two years ago.

The meaning of the message was beginning to become clearer to me as time went on.

“And now his mother is adamant that she wants to visit you,” she said. If neither you nor your mother are present, she may decide to call off the engagement. Adam comes from a family that is very close to one another, and his mother wants him to marry a woman who is also very close to her parents and who has learned how to honour relationships.

Alice also wrote that it was my responsibility that our relationship was damaged since I kept the secret about her biological parents from her, and she asked me to forget everything and attend the wedding. She also stated that she wanted me to attend that wedding. The fact that she was so oblivious to the fact that she was wrong astounded me. A wedding was the only thing that mattered to her.

Despite the fact that I am not sure what you would have done in this circumstance, I did not accept her. That evening, she sent me a text message asking for assistance once more, but my response remained the same.

Sincerity compels me to admit that I would have complied with her request if she had even once expressed regret to me. However, Alice did not take me seriously. She believed that I would always pay attention to what she had to say.

I am still being ridiculed by some others, particularly my friend Kevin, for destroying the great day that my daughter was celebrating. He keeps urging me that I should just ignore everything and go to the wedding with no further thought. If Alice continues to behave in this manner, she will never be able to improve because she will continue to take everything for granted.