Beyond the Surface: When a Daughter’s Words Unveil Family Secrets
My 19-Year-Old Daughter Blurted Out That I’m ‘Nothing More Than an ATM’ to Her & Revealed Her Mom’s Secret
When a girl’s dad refused her request to spend $200 on hanging out with her pals, she became enraged. When she revealed a long-kept secret, their argument took a different course.
A 19-year-old girl had a constant need to be the center of attention and was quite the attention-seeker. In order to stay in the spotlight, she frequently played the victim and created drama by lying about other people. However, she revealed a startling fact one day during a heated dispute about money.
Her father, a Reddit user, disclosed that he asked random people for advice after struggling with a problem on the “AITA” forum. His curiosity was piqued as to whether he had acted improperly in his response to the unsettling realization that resulted from his daughter’s admission.
How Did OP Discover the Real Fatherhood of His Daughter?
When he was twenty years old, the 39-year-old original poster (OP) welcomed his daughter. She would do anything to take center stage and was always looking for attention. OP warned his daughter several times, but she never paid attention.
The father eventually gave up attempting to heal her, and although daughter continued to have her regular outbursts, the true issue began when she asked OP for $200 so that she and her friends could go shopping.
Given that he had already given her enough money for the month, OP firmly declined and ignored her requests. Realizing that begging would not solve the problem, the daughter adopted a different strategy and calmly voiced her dissatisfaction.
The heated exchange between them ended when she yelled at OP, telling him there was no use in her mother marrying a wealthy man who would never give her daughter money. When OP had had enough, she replied, calling him “her father” rather than “some ATM” that she could use anytime she pleased.
She snapped at him in the heat of the moment, calling him “nothing more than an ATM to her” since he wasn’t her real father. The father was taken aback and worriedly inquired about the source of her thought.
The girl tried fiercely to hide her blurt out of fear that she had said something inappropriate right away. However, OP thought there was a strange ring to her statement and threatened to have her ejected if she didn’t explain why she had said it. The truth was disclosed by OP’s daughter in the following moments.
What Was OP’s Response to the Truth?
After turning eighteen, she informed her father, her mother decided she “needed to know the truth” and admitted to having cheated on her with three other men before becoming pregnant. Because OP consistently utilized protection during intimate moments, the mother was adamant that he wasn’t her father.
Since OP funded their opulent lifestyle, OP’s wife and her daughter made the decision to withhold the information from him. After a fierce argument with his wife, OP was devastated and decided to fire them. Despite this, he offered the girl $200 because she didn’t have a work.
Later, when she had blown up everything, the girl came to see him and begged for more money. OP was furious, and he only agreed to assist her in exchange for her cooperation with a DNA test. OP pursued the test after she consented to it. Eventually, the results showed that he wasn’t her father.
With all that transpired in such a short period of time, the father was devastated. He declined the forgiveness of his in-laws and family and chose not to make amends with his daughter for her role in keeping him in the dark. Reddit users expressed their opinions
What Were People Saying on Reddit?
He sought a Redditor for moral advice, saying, “They are all blowing me up right now trying to get me to change my mind, so AITA?” Redditors anonymously chipped in, claiming that OP wasn’t at fault in the scenario after looking into OP’s predicament.
“It seems the daughter made the decision to not see you as a father figure,” wrote the most popular remark on the article, implying that the original poster should cease communicating with both his wife and her daughter. That might be the case since she said that out of spite and is upset that you didn’t give her money.”
Numerous people, including a user, asserted that the OP was financially taken advantage of by his wife and daughter. “Send your money to a different account that your spouse cannot access, and hire a reputable attorney. “Go ahead and fire your stepdaughter,” the individual counseled.
As it turned out, the kid OP had raised for 19 years—assuming she was his daughter—was actually someone else’s daughter, but he still wouldn’t completely give up on her. “Even in dire circumstances, I will not abandon a helpless little girl in a city,” he declared. I will still assist, even though I won’t be able to get her back or give her nearly as much money as I formerly did.”
Thoughts to Consider:
If you found out the child you kicked out is not biologically yours, would you make amends with them?
Upon the paternity test’s results showing that OP was not the girl’s father, he and her mother were expelled. Despite acknowledging that he had assisted the jobless girl financially, OP was adamant about keeping his distance from her. If you were the father, would you act in the same way?
Do you believe that OP’s daughter was made to shoulder the guilt and culpability for her mother’s adultery?
OP ejected his wife from both his life and his home after learning that she had cheated on him with three other guys. In exchange, he also drove out the girl he believed to be his daughter. Although the girl is not genetically linked to him because she was not the cause of her mother’s adultery, would you advise the OP to give her a fair opportunity to demonstrate that she could still be his daughter? Do years of love evaporate when you find out the child you raised belongs to someone else?
